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Imposter Syndrome

Hello my old friend,

As always, your timing is impeccable. While I am not surprised by your visit, I am slightly disappointed that you didn't wait just a little longer before you came through. I thought at the sweet age of 21 (plus 8 years life experience😅) I’d have found a way to beat you, but here we are, and I’ve lost more battles against you than I can count.

I have come to the conclusion that you are a force of the universe designed to keep the status quo, for how can I strive for more when I feel unworthy of what I already possess. Seeing that you are a constant in my life, I've decided to stop fighting you, for you only visit when I feel undeserving of what I deserve. One could say that in your own twisted way, you are letting me know that I am where I am meant to be.

Maybe, just maybe, you aren’t my nemesis. Only a silent whisperer that I am on the path to growth. I do wish these visits were be accompanied with warmer emotions though for I could use a little less self-doubt in my life. Then again, if you came with all the validation in the world, would I still go beyond the call of duty in an effort to prove that I belong, or would I sit back and bask in my accomplishment until I was trapped by the dangers of comfort?

I guess what I'm saying is, while I won't go as far as promising milk and cookies on your next visit 😂, I can assure you that you will be met with some mild hospitality.

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