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NB: I know I explained this before in my introductory blog, but I feel the need to reiterate for this specific publication lest the reader starts making assumptions. This was written over 5 months ago and therefore isn't a reflection of what I am going through at the moment. It could be my growth/evolution in the past 6 months but reading this now, I must say it sounds cheesy as hell 😂😂😂. Anyway, here goes...

Hello, healthy relationships my old friend. I didn't know you were coming. You do know that you could've warned me first right, or were you afraid I'd run away from you like last time? Look who has trust issues now 😏

Now that you're here, your last visit just came to mind. I mean, it was pretty memorable after all. How can I forget the feeling that comes with knowing where I stand with someone from the get-go? How can I forget being considered in my partner's plans (whether involved or not)? How can I forget never having to guess what was going on in my partner's life, good or bad? How can I forget the feeling of sharing some of my most intimate thoughts, and exposing my vulnerable side with no fear or restraints? How can I forget the random gifting and the excitement that comes from hearing the words 'I bought this for you'? How can I forget the monthly relationship check-ins/audits that came in the form of a simple 'are you still happy'? How can I forget the feeling of setting healthy boundaries which felt nothing like rejection but a guide on how to navigate the relationship without raising any unwanted emotions in each other? More importantly, how can I forget the comfort that came with the affirmations we shared?

Now let me stop reminiscing on the past and focus on your current visit. So what do you have in store for me this time? I see that we're off to a good start as the intentions are clear from the very beginning. Hold on, now this is something new. Did you really just create a space for me to speak freely about my past traumas with no fear of scaring you off? Cheers to that. I must say I sure am loving the thoughtfulness you have brought, along with the conversations that flow so flawlessly I could have them for hours on end. I also see that you come with a partner who expresses their enthusiasm to see me. A partner who I catch every now and then looking at me like I fart rainbows 😊. I must say I could get used to this.

I guess in summary, I am excited you graced me with your presence once again, and I cannot wait to see how this unfolds.


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