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The gift of negative emotions

A day or two after my birthday, I felt a wave of sadness wash over me. In all honesty, I had nothing to be sad about. Granted there could've easily been something to be sad about at the time and I could have found it had I dug deeper but the truth is, even the happiest person on earth can easily find an aspect of their life to be sad about. So the point I am trying to make is that I am positive that what I was going through was simply random and not tied to anything going on in my life. When I got home I was feeling a lot better, and that's when it dawned on me that I hadn't felt sad (or at least that sad) in over a year.  A funny thing happened after that realisation for I found myself a little grateful for that episode. Granted that could've been because I am a glass-half-full kind of person but it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe, I needed that to realise and appreciate that I had been happy all this time. It's twisted I know but if happiness is all you have...

Writer’s block

Yeah, I know I know! One blog post in and I'm already experiencing writer's block. But hey, it is what it is. So yesterday I decided to take a social media break, the kind I would usually take during my studying days when school got hectic. This was meant to try and clear some of the stuff on my plate (including finishing up my drafted blog ideas). Last night I was typing another blog and it really felt like work. And why would it not, seeing I had taken a break from some aspects of my life to do it. Had I turned what used to be a fun form of expression into an assignment with deadlines? Is this what writer's block feels like? Where you feel so pressured to complete a single piece that you block out the ideas for your other pieces with the hope of channeling all your energy to the one you’re working on. But what is the impact of this? Don’t your pieces feel forced? Don't you get to a point where you go back and you just aren't happy with your output because you know...

Dating for marriage

Dating having to lead marriage was a hot topic and I thought I'd share something that has been on my mind in the past few weeks on the matter. I'll be honest, I started having some of the most amazing, healthy relationships the day I decided to stop 'dating for marriage'. That decision was one of the most liberating I've ever made because it gave me the freedom to date the people who made me happy, with everything else coming second. I know that most people avoid such relationships and I think it's because they pre-judge them and assume that they will end. This fear of endings is what I find interesting though because life is but a series of endings. High school, varsity life, your first job, relationships, friendships, etc. All of them end at some point. Even life itself has an inevitable end and yet that has never stopped us from living as though we have unlimited time on this planet. This reminds me of the time when Ricky, in After Life, asked “If you're ...

A glimpse in the mind of the author

So I have spent the past 15 minutes trying to think of a title for my introductory piece and I think that pretty much summarises the kind of person I am. I wonder if that was a result of the perfectionist in me or my indecisive nature. Whatever it was, here we are. I am wondering which heading I will go with in the end. It looks like the first paragraph was me going on about the difficulty of deciding on a heading. Okay, maybe "going on" is a strong word for 4 sentences but I think that pretty much summaries the name of my blog. Now, why did I start a blog? Well, firstly, my friend encouraged me to put some of my writing out there after reading a few threads I have written in the past. The second reason is that for a while now I have been writing a few pieces and the majority of them are unfinished. So I figured doing this would get me to finish some of them. This, therefore, means the next 6 or so publications will not necessarily be stuff in my head at the time of publishin...